A relationship with some (positive) emotional tensions absolutely resonates with me. I don't want to be around someone who just tells me what I want to hear. I want someone strong enough in their own convictions to challenge me (kindly) to grow and develop.

I had never thought about that before reading your article. I wasn't ever drawn to "nice guys" either. My husband is very kind and honest and forthcoming. Nice traits without any games. Fascinating! Thank you so much for this article, Julia!